The latest research on sleep suggests the problems with sleep accounts for difficulties in our relationships.

Not only does a lack of sleep have negative consequences on our emotional and physical health, but it also has an impact on how we relate and communicate with each other. We spend our lives bringing other issues into the equation as to why we don’t get on, but it’s often our inability to sleep that contributes to our behaviour.

We don't always connect with our own understanding of sleep deprivation, but I believe there is some truth to this. A large part of arguments that take place in our relationship, can be as a result of bad sleep patterns.

A lack of sleep not only incites conflict and unresolved issues, but also impairs our ability to resolve many issues too. Relationships should be based on compromise, but as we fall prey to bad sleeping patterns, compromise is the first thing to go, to be replaced with unreasonableness.

On a scale of one to ten sleep is somewhere near the bottom, but sleep and sleep deprivation should both be a priority on our list. If we are aware or know that sleep may be responsible for our behaviour, then we're more likely to change our sleep routines.

Once we understand the signs of our own unreasonable behaviour is down to sleep deprivation, it will be easier to spot the signs of other people's unreasonable behaviour too, because of their lack of sleep. The hard part of course is convincing them.

That said, it’s obvious how much better we feel when we sleep and that indicates how much better we’ll cope with our relationships.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Sleep deprivation”

  1. I sleep but I don't, if that makes sense. I go out when I lay my head on my pillow and don't move all night.

    I get 7 hours sleep each night, but I still have this terrible sleepy feeling a lot of days and it does affect how I relate to others. I'm more irritable and easily angered, but I think stress has a lot to do with sleep also. I deal with a lot of stress and I believe it affects my sleep.

    Some nights I sleep fairly good, but when I'm stressed or had a very stressful day I don't sleep as well. I agree with you totally.

    1. Yes Lisa it makes a lot of sense. You sleep but your quality of sleep is impaired which means you're not sleeping well.

      How we sleep impacts our mood and behaviour the next day. I agree with you Lisa about stress and sleep. Stress interferes with our quality of sleep.

  2. As I've got older, I value a good night's sleep more and more. I know that sounds a bit lame, but I look forward to going to bed when the opposite was true a while ago.

    With a good night's sleep we can tackle everything so much better that comes our way in our daily lives.

    1. I think you're right the older we get the more we look forward to the rest, going to bed gives us.

      I also agree that when we've had a good night's sleep we're more likely to tackle our problems better.

  3. The favorite part of my day is sleep time, I get about 8 hours a day. Usually about three in the afternoon I get sleepy again. On days when I am not busy I will take a nap with my dog.

    I am really cranky and get a headache when I don't sleep enough. It's funny how the headache subsides after a short nap.

    1. Thanks Maria. Short naps are actually a more effective way of sleeping. When the body needs to sleep we need to let it. Unfortunately sleeping when we're not actually tired is less effective.

      It's also easier to sleep when we're tired rather than force the issue of sleep when we're not actually tired. That is my belief.

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