Something inspirational:

“When dealing with critics always remember this: critics judge things based on what is outside of their content of understanding.”

SHANNON L. ALDER

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “The critics”

    1. Thanks Lisa. Please don't worry. When a person criticises someone they will often do it from their own perspective rather than the other person's understanding of their own experiences.

      We tend to criticise on what we think we know rather than what's really going on.

  1. Yes, it's pretty much like someone who isn't an alcoholic telling an alcoholic to just not drink or someone who doesn't have depression telling someone with depression to just get over it! Nothing more infuriating than people telling you what to do when they don't have a clue.

    One of my favourite expressions is "You can't always judge a book by it's cover!" I've tried to connect with others who deal with similar issues, but it has been so very hard just for that reason.

    I'm hoping I can expand my social circle by connecting with the right people in the very near future!

    1. You're absolutely right, thanks Randy. Unless we walk in someone else's shoes, we will never know and understand what someone else goes through in terms of their experiences.

      That's fine, but we must always try and understand other people's thoughts, feelings and experiences. If we were able to do that we'd be less likely to criticise on things we know very little about, or what we think we know.

  2. My experience is that most people who criticise do so from a position of a lack of knowledge and/or understanding, so I agree with this quote.

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