We probably know the type, the self-righteous who won’t listen to anyone and continue to make their lives about them. They defy change.

The self-righteous individuals who are intolerant of the opinions and behaviour of others. Their need to be right far outweighs their need to be civil or kind. They hear, but constantly disagree and will see their opinions as being right.

In the real world, it’s very hard to deal with someone whose opinions are the only ones that matter: it would be like having a one-sided conversation.

Although I appreciate there may be some merit in how that person may feel, it doesn’t give them the right to be self-righteous. No one has the right to be self-righteous over another.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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8 comments on “The self-righteous”

  1. Boy have you hit the nail on the head with this post!

    I know several people who fit your description perfectly and while each is different, they share the common trait that they are not possible to reason with, or be reasonable themselves.

    Great post. It brought a smile to my face this morning!

  2. I totally agree with you. People like this get on my last nerve.

    They think they know it all; it doesn't matter if they are talking to someone who is an expert in their field, the self-righteous tend to ignore that and totally believe what they are saying is the truth whether it goes against common sense or not.

    I to tend to ignore these people.

  3. Yes, I've known many people like this and it's beyond frustrating to try to have a conversation with them! They think they're always right and never really listen to whatever point it is that you are trying to make.

    I try to avoid them at all costs but I know sometimes it's someone you have to deal with whether you like it or not.

    I grew up feeling like I was talking to the wall with my parents so I really don't care for repeating the same thing when dealing with other people!

    1. Thanks Randy and not to say annoying! I agree that sometimes it's not so easy to avoid people who are so self-righteous, particularly if you were to include family members who have those traits.

      In some respects it would be easier to distance yourself, but I do agree it doesn't solve the initial problem of having to deal with them in the first place.

      When we distance ourselves we have time out, but we still have to go back in at some point. That's not so easy.

  4. I think self-righteous people have an insecurity issue going on. I tend to put plenty of room between myself and characters like that.

    I have a cousin who knows everything about everything and if you dare tell her she's wrong, she'll become contentious and insulting.

    Self-righteous people typically gravitate towards people who are easily persuaded.

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