We will all have sustained trauma and been in toxic relationships at some point in our lives. This can lead to becoming disengaged, avoiding people or situations that trigger painful memories, feeling emotionally numb.
About toxicity
I have experienced a life shaped by toxicity, not of my own choosing. Toxicity surrounds us – it lurks behind us, within our circles, on social media, and in politics. It’s a reflection of the world we live in, where negativity and harmful behaviours dominate.The challenge lies in recognising these patterns and striving to break free from them, both personally and collectively.
How Trauma Works
From a spiritual and psychological perspective, trauma leaves behind unresolved emotions, thought patterns and heightened sensitivity to similar energies. Experiencing trauma – whether it's through neglect, mental, or physical abuse, can profoundly impact a person’s energy field. Over time, these painful experiences create blockages, disrupting the natural flow of energy and leaving a lasting imprint on emotional health and spiritual wellbeing. Blockages will continue to resonate with similar energies, leading to a magnetic pull towards people or situations with the same trauma "frequency." We are drawn to what feels familiar, even if it’s unhealthy. Unresolved trauma creates energy patterns that keep showing up until we work through and heal them.
What Toxic Energy Does and How it Works
Firstly we really need to look at good energy vs toxic energy to understand the different types of energy. When people refer to someone’s “good energy,” they are typically describing the overall way a person carries themselves – demonstrating a positive attitude, showing empathy for others, and being of good character and not controlling. “Toxic energy” represents lingering toxic emotional imprints, including control. Individuals who experience unresolved trauma will automatically unconsciously seek out relationships or situations that reflect pain.
Gravitation, known as "trauma bonding" sometimes also known as "Stockholm Syndrome," arises from a deep psychological drive to process, understand, or heal the original wound. For example, a person who grew up feeling neglected might unknowingly be attracted to emotionally distant partners, or someone who has faced persistent criticism may find themselves drawn to environments where they are subjected to ongoing trauma.
Breaking 'the toxic' cycle
Breaking the trauma cycle requires awareness, understanding and healing. Not everyone will be aware they possess toxic traits. Toxic traits that are passed down through the generations. Therapeutic approaches like trauma-focused therapy or EMDR can help individuals process and release trauma. Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and journalling can emphasise unconscious patterns, and that in turn promotes self-awareness.
Energy-based methods like Reiki or chakra balancing can clear blockages and restore harmony. Cultivating healthy, supportive relationships can also help to change internal energy and encourage new, positive energy patterns.
Conclusion
For those who continue to carry toxic patterns, they often do as a means of survival, not by choice. If your words aren't kind, they can become harmful instead. That is toxic. Healing is a journey, and understanding the connection between trauma and energy can empower individuals to move towards a better life.
