Although initially it feels easier to hold back on our emotions, after a while it becomes harder when you're continually holding back. It's okay to feel angry when you’re irritated or mad at someone, or to cry when you feel sad.

From a young age, it may not always be clear to us that we are struggling with our emotions. For me it wasn’t so much that my emotions felt uncomfortable. Although I wasn't always aware of what I felt, I was aware things didn't feel right.

But generally, we're uncomfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Emotions are uncomfortable for a reason, they’re there to let us know that we need to act on them. We need to be proactive.

Instead, we may unconsciously put our emotions on the back burner, or if someone talks to us because they are concerned, we may tell them everything is okay. To the outside world we are, but to us, it’s a different ball game. Emotions, if we let them, can get bigger, until they can no longer be contained.

Emotions and ill-health

But any emotions not dealt with, will deal with us through ill-health. I have seen it happen. It's important to deal with our emotions. Through autism and in Covid-19, I continually cultivate ways so that I can sit comfortably with my emotions, even though I do continue to experience those ever-present knee-jerk reactions.

Dealing with your emotions makes life easier 

Emotions exist for each of us, there is no point in pretending they don’t. To come face to face with our emotions, means an easier transition.

If you think about it, emotions aren’t supposed to feel comfortable, but with sincerity, they can if we let them, guide us to greater understanding and insights into ourselves and that can feel liberating. Let your emotions move through you.

If you fancy reading either of my books, you can grab paperback and Kindle copies on Amazon, or through the following link https://linktr.ee/Ilana_Estelle

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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