There comes a time when we know the people who genuinely care, because their actions show they care. Then there are those who say they care, but their actions show a different understanding of what caring means.

It is only when we come to understand that fact that we can emotionally change our perceptions to keep ourselves happier and healthier. At the end of the day, as with any relationship, it's up to us whether we choose to walk away or stay.

Although it’s often hard to come to terms with knowing people don’t care, in the longer term it becomes easier because we instinctively know what we need to do. We need to be around people who we can rely on that truly show they care.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Understanding the caring”

  1. It would be nice if everyone thought like Mahatma Gandhi to inspire love and kindness around the world. But people are too self absorbed in their individualism; in a world where caring doesn't pay the bills or guarantee returns on moral investments.

    Perhaps we need to be honest with ourselves about how broken we really are, especially when caring about the human part of our fellow man.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, I think you're right but can't help but think we've lost the plot on what life really means and how we're supposed to behave.

      Your last paragraph sums up your response beautifully and I agree.

  2. Your blog reminded me of the saying that 'actions speak louder than words' and that got me thinking that sometimes we need to hear words rather than action, which can be even more important to show we care.

    As Tim says it would be nice if we could show and accept more that we need help, but as humans we are often too vain and selfish.

    1. Thank you. Unfortunately, we say very little. We can use words and not mean them. Words can sometimes be hollow. They mean nothing until we act on them.

      I'm also not sure about vanity in that context, but agree with you that the human condition can be selfish. Perhaps we need to change that to 'selfless.' Now you're talking!

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