Someone once said it was fascinating, how when someone is terminally ill, we crawl out of the woodwork unexpectedly, to pay our respects, even though we may not have had nothing to do with them for years.

And it got me thinking. Perhaps it's done because we may want that person to remember us, or perhaps we feel guilty for not having been in that person’s life. Whatever the reason, it's making peace, so they get to say their goodbyes.

Saying goodbye

Whatever your thoughts on why it happens, I believe it’s much easier to put right what’s wrong long before we get to the stage, where we're having to say our goodbyes.

Our initial issues

When it gets to that stage and we come back in, it may often be too late to say or do anything, so the initial issue goes unresolved. The other person may also know the problem's there, it's just not something talked about.

Disagreements and arguments

The problem with disagreements and arguments are that they turn into grudges and the problem with grudges is they may seem difficult to overcome, yet they are so easy to correct. A lot of what is said, is usually down to interpretation.

Arguments left unresolved

In hindsight it’s so easy to look back on arguments and not easily remember what the argument was about, but leaving these things until it’s too late, means the issues are never resolved.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Unexpected visitors”

  1. I agree with you. I think things need to be handled before it's too late, if they are to be handled.

    I do also think that people don't take the time to visit like they used to. We are so busy with our lives nowadays, we don't take the time to go visiting.

    1. I understand your point about people being too busy to visit other people. Generally speaking you are right, but being terminally ill is something different.

      People will generally make the time to pay their respects in those kind of circumstances. It's when we think we have time to visit people, we tend to use being busy an excuse or don't see the need. Thanks for posting Lisa.

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