Although mediation is involved and refers to an intervention in a dispute to resolve disputes, there is a different explanation that works in life too. Mediation is an intervention in a process or relationship and should work in families too.
Not many families use mediation. They offer an opinion, the opinion isn’t accepted then they fall out or walk away, depending on what comes first. Mediation should be used as a tool between two people to bring a discussion or opinion to a conclusion, without having to bring a third party in to do it.
Instead of both parties offering an olive branch and using mediation to talk about how they feel, they’re often too quick to throw in the towel. Issues aren’t unique, we all have them, it’s how we handle them that’s important.
Mediation should help bring about clarification and understanding and when continually used, it will help us through the healing process.
At some point, words begin to ricochet off walls and no one compromises, every kind of behavior comes before rational.
But by the glory of something greater than ourselves, things usually get resolved, but that's after hurt has been permanently tattooed on us.
Thanks Tim. I love your response and so true.
But if one thing is assured, for every issue, we will always have or find a resolve for that issue. It's the nature of what issues are.
How long we have to wait of course is down to the individual, or how long we're prepared to wait for something to work itself through.
I agree with your explanation of mediation in the context of relationships. Its up to us to try hard enough to recognise, address and change what needs changing while there is time.
Compromise is seen as failure or defeat but its actually a positive attribute.
Thanks, yes I also believe compromise is. We should want to try hard enough to communicate and mediate. Want to make a difference on both sides.