When anyone reaches out to us for help and we decide not to help them, we’ve already subconsciously decided they don’t need our help, that there’s clearly nothing wrong with them.

People reach out because they need the help. Perhaps it’s us that need the help for us not wanting to help them. Everyone deserves an understanding, a listening ear regardless of what they're dealing with.

Listening is the first step to at least showing we care, even if we know deep down, we can’t help.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “When people reach out”

  1. Years ago, I saw something going on between you and your readers that caught my eye.

    So I looked at this site more closely and saw how you extend yourself to help people with sorrows no one else cares about or understands; that's reaching out Ilana.

    1. When writing this blog, I never thought about it but yes, I reach out in more ways than I could ever imagine I could have.

      There are of course different ways we reach out and those aren't as important as our ability to reach out. In reaching out to myself, I also reach out to others too.

      I also care about others, because I know what it's like for others to care less. Many thanks for pointing this out.

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