Abuse is invisible and because it’s invisible, it’s not always easy to understand or equate that what you are experiencing is abuse. No one holds back on what they think any more.

It's Okay to Say How You Feel

It’s okay to say how you feel but when anger presents, it changes how people deal with and think about you. If we all took the time, we would come to understand and see why people deal with anger.

How Anger Works

Anger is based on neglect, abuse – around past experiences. If you have anger it's because you're hurting, you're frustrated, you're upset or you're irritated, but there are always ways to channel how you feel. I go back to the same thinking. The anger out there – out there in our communities and in the world, is seeping into our everyday relationships.

We fail to cope when we fail to have compassion, empathy and tolerance. Brexit and Covid-19 have brought about stress through a widespread change in Governments who are more self-serving – and as a consequence, people and attitudes have changed.

The Anger Divide

The anger divide is now bigger than ever. We need to pull back and lead by our own examples of the good that is still out there in the world.

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Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “When we Fail to Cope”

  1. People seem to be getting the impression that it's okay to force your ideals on to others like with the whole 'black Lives matter' movement here in the US, but the last I knew this was a free country.

    I have been accused of being a racist before, because of my complaints about the constant barrage of negative attention, but that isn't the case.

    My issue has been, as with many other issues of people trying to force me to think, act and feel the same way they do. I grew up in a world where I was brainwashed and made to think that I didn't have a choice, so I wasted most of my life living that way.

    Once I finally figured out that I did have a choice, I realized I didn't like being treated like 'sheep' who just go along with whatever people tell them to believe.

    1. Thanks Randy. Given my own set of circumstances, I'm not far off you in the experience stakes. Where you say, 'I finally figured out that I did have a choice,' - yes you do Randy. I am pleased you have come to the same realisation.

      Your life was one way, now you can choose to live your life a different way. All lives matter and we must all work together to that end.

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