Something inspirational:

"One of the greatest awakenings comes when you realise that not everybody changes. Some people never change. And that’s their journey. It’s not yours to try to fix for them.”

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Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Why Destiny can't always be changed”

  1. If we change or don't, either outcome was always our destiny anyway... but I certainly believe in not trying to 'fix' anyone. I would hope instead, they are able and choose to fix themselves.

    1. Without me having gone through the healing process, my destiny wouldn't have been The CP Diary or writing three beautiful books that deal with mental health.

      But I do think we are each responsible for ourselves. Often our destiny changes because we fail to want to deal with, or grasp what we need to do to keep ourselves healthy.

      From an early age we are conditioned to behave a certain way and follow what we know instead of coming out of our comfort zone. I chose to come out of my comfort zone and haven't looked back.

      We all need to remember that without good emotional or mental health, it will be hard to keep ourselves physically well. Sadly, I have seen it happen.

      It's why through my writing, I continue to champion and advocate mental health.

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