Using reflection and looking back on my experiences, I see a very different version of me, the angry child is no longer staring back at me.

Reflection

Let's look at reflection because there is a point to it. Because without it we’re less likely to make any necessary changes and changes are necessary, if we are to heal, adapt and move forward in our lives. Using reflection, helps identify the parts of us that we need to change.

Reflection and Emotional and Spiritual Growth

Reflection has been the key to my growth. Without it, I wouldn’t have achieved what I have. It gives us the space to process our emotions, grow spiritually, and find the clarity we need to move forward.

Looking back isn’t about dwelling on the past, but understanding it. Your experiences aren’t meant to hold you back; they’re there to teach you. Take the time to work through them. Growth comes when you stop running and start understanding.

Don't gloss over your experiences

It's easy to gloss over experiences – Easy to reinvent history, play down the bad times, put people on a pedestal who don’t deserve to be there. It would also be easy to blame ourselves.

But it is important to look back on the good, the bad and the ugly experiences in the way they happened. It is important to draw the positives from the not so positive experiences, to see what lessons you can learn from those times.

By not using reflection, you're setting yourself up to fail. You need to learn (we all do) new practices and you can only do that by using reflection and looking back on your experiences – to create new opportunities.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Why Reflection is Important”

  1. Without using reflection we will never understand our experiences or our life in any great detail as you say.

    It's important but it's not always something we hold importance to.

    1. Thank you. 'It's important but it's not always something we hold importance to' - it's massively important we hold importance to it. I can't stress that enough.

      Without it, we will mentally and emotionally struggle, particularly if we have had to deal with trauma.

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