Children have a natural curiosity. They’re keen to learn, and understand, asking questions that will help them grow and function in their world. As adults, we’re not all good at asking questions, let alone how best to respond to them.

When I was in school, children were mostly taught to focus on finding the correct answers to questions put to them, rather than ask their own questions, or explore their own understanding. But we can never expand our minds that way. Not being able to ask questions means someone else’s belief system will become ours, and so the cycle continues.

Our belief system needs to be our own, so that we choose how we want to think. When we learn new things, we push ourselves beyond what we already know. We can still listen to other people’s responses and opinions, but we need to be able to form our own.

Only then will we start to view and see the world differently. Seeing the world from a different viewpoint, gives us opportunities to be encouraged and to ask more questions, so that we can challenge ourselves further. As a result, we may even get to make new connections along the way.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Why we should ask questions”

  1. I agree with you. I believe that the only way we can find the answers that we want is to ask the right questions. The questions to the answers we want to know.

    It is scary sometimes and I believe a lot of us stay in the dark because secretly we know what the answer is going to be. It's like maybe it wont happen if we don't find out for sure.

    1. I agree Lisa it can be scary sometimes which is why many of us choose not to ask any questions, but whether we ask questions or not we will still have to face things whatever happens.

      We cannot stop what may happen because we don't ask questions. I think we will be more prepared if we ask.

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