How many of us living with a condition feel we fit into our lives with what we have to deal with, whether we deal with Depression, Bipolar, MS or Cerebral Palsy? These conditions take a different kind of patience.

I know a lot more about Cerebral Palsy, as that is what I deal with, but there is a balance to be had between the things we can do and the things we can't, so that the things we can't do are done by other people who want to help.

A positive attitude, support and acceptance is what those with a disability need and to help them fit in, with those people they share their lives with.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Fitting in”

  1. Fitting in is very important. Most of my life I have felt like I was on the outside looking in. As a result I have low self esteem issues to this day. The one place where I felt good and happy was working for an organization that helped people with disabilities.

    I finally felt like I fitted in. I know during that time I was much happier, because I felt needed and important. It is very important to feel needed and valued. I would suggest to anyone that if you find a job you love, stick with it.

    It is important to find your passion in life.

    1. Fitting in, as we really just have to. Randy is very close to the mark but we don't all live in a disabled world, as much as we may like to!

      I can see why some people are hurting bad, as sometimes we let them, but we have to cope in a very crazy world.

      Yesteryear people coped because they had no option and sadly we are feeling the results of what was sometimes very hurtful. We have to live in today's society that mostly couldn't give a damn!

      We all need to help each other across the difficult parts of life, but the only possible way to understand the hurting is to find people that really care.

      1. Thanks Mike. I didn't cope because I didn't have the emotional help whilst growing up. I felt I just existed.

        I withdrew emotionally early on so that I could deal with my emotional and physical difficulties. I was at my most happiest then.

    2. Thanks Randy. I agree it's so important to find our passion in life. I am pleased you found yours. It doesn't matter how long it takes as long as we find it.

      I also agree it's important to feel needed and valued; but we need to fit into our own lives more than we need to fit into society, although that will also help.

  2. It is always hard to find family members who will help you accept your condition.

    At first, I had one family member who was jokingly poking fun at me. But that has stopped now that he sees that I am more normal with the Meds that I am taking.

    I hope you know that family members at home picking up the slack, are happy to do it for us.

    1. Thanks Maria. Yes, it's a shame that you had the experiences with your family that you had.

      No-one should have to prove themselves before family will be more accepting.

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