Confrontation is probably something we’ve all had to deal with, but if we can’t avoid it, how do we then deal with being confronted?
It is inevitable that disagreements, arguments and confrontations may happen when we say something that others think inappropriate or offensive, without us thinking about what we say, and the way it was intended. But going in fighting and screaming wouldn’t be the best way to handle the situation.
Some people may try to avoid or ignore confrontation altogether, but the problem with that is that issues don’t just go away just because we choose to ignore them. There could be many reasons we choose not to confront someone, but where that may work for a finite time, avoiding issues altogether isn’t sorting out the problem.
Not dealing with an issue means we’re not willing to mediate or compromise. It also won’t set us up for a rightful passage to peace. We can never be at peace when we spend our lives avoiding issues. Addressing issues is always better. That way the issue doesn’t get worse and it can get resolved.
We don’t have to be self-righteous. We don’t have to prove to others that we’re right, to believe what we know. And just because we talk or confront someone about the issue were struggling with, doesn’t mean it will turn into a power struggle.
That really depends how both parties choose to deal with it. Behaving in a tactful and appropriate way can bring about a compromise on both sides.
I think that most of us are not naturally confrontational and that we have to learn how to confront people so that we are not walked over. It's not easy, especially when this is out of character.
I share an office with someone who is far too confrontational and this is a negative thing in his relationships with clients and colleagues.
As ever, the key is finding a balance while being true to oneself and whilst reaching a compromise.
I agree that most of us are not naturally confrontational. You are right about finding a balance, being true to ourselves and reaching a compromise.
We should be able to speak out when there is need without worrying about the consequences.
I avoid confrontation unless I feel it is necessary. But I know with my father it is difficult. We both tend to lock horns. My brother will avoid them at all cost. Even leaving to get away from them.
I have to remind myself not to raise my voice or watch the tone I am using. I think at all cost it is about remaining calm.
Once I lose it, it is not good. No Good can come out of that. I am talking from experience.
I understand Randy. It can be difficult depending on who we're trying to have a conversation with whether what we say turns out to be confrontational. It's not so easy.
I am sure we can all relate in one way or another.
I avoid confrontation if I can.
When I do confront, I usually forget half the stuff I need to say and just get frustrated and angry at myself.
I need to confront some people about a certain situation but have been avoiding it because I don't know the words to say or how to express myself, so the meaning comes across correctly.
I know confrontation isn't easy, but not to confront means we live with unease.
I believe it's a skill we need to practice at. The more we speak out, the more we will know how to speak out. Perhaps don't see it as a confrontation but a conversation you need to have.
Confrontations can be amicable, but It very much depends on what we say and how we say it as to how the other person responds. The more practice we have, the better we become at saying what we need to say.