Something inspirational: "First and foremost, we need to be the adults we want our children to be. We should watch our own gossiping and anger. We should model the kindness we want to see." BRENE BROWN
Something inspirational:
"First and foremost, we need to be the adults we want our children to be. We should watch our own gossiping and anger. We should model the kindness we want to see."
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I did try for a very long time, but my daughter was pretty much raised by her mother due to my issues, and it showed with her recent behavior where she lied straight to my face.
I haven't ever spoken ill of her mother in front of her or treated her inappropriately, which her mother accused me of before we divorced, seeing as she was molested by her brothers and expected all men would do the same to their daughters.
I tried so very hard to be a decent person and do the right thing, when it turned out to be a waste of my time seeing as I can't believe the person she has become.
She chose her mother's family over staying with me in the end, and I haven't spoken to her for months so chances are she's going to do whatever it is that she wants to do and I will be the last to know when she dies from an overdose, or has to walk to streets to pay for her habit.
Thanks Randy. This is the sad reality of how families can sometimes work.
I would love to say things will work out between you and your daughter, but perhaps one day when your ex-wife is no longer around, your daughter will come to understand the true story and not the story she's been fed over the years.
It's always our job to keep ourselves emotionally and physically well and hopefully the universe will do the rest.
I believe that the most important thing we can do as a parent, is to be the best role model we can be for our child.
This is not a quick fix, but a parent has to work all of his/her life on becoming the type of person that he wants his child to become, and that is a huge responsibility.
You're right, but as my case has shown that's not always how children are parented. As you say nothing is ever a quick fix, but first we must work on being better people and then to our children.
From an early age I became aware of the many issues surrounding my childhood and vowed that if I had children I would do things differently. I am pleased to say that I stood up to my word and have.
There's a famous quote that says, 'it's easier to build strong children than to repair broken adults.' How true. If parents took that and held it close to their heart, no matter how hard it is for them, they would look to change how they parent.
I've done it myself so I know it works. It's a selfless act. Children must come first, regardless of parents' issues. But even without the issues, not all parents see parenting in that way.
This is so true, kids are very impressionable beings. If you say thing dishonestly they will sense it. Luckily my mom instilled some good morals in me. I in turn have passed those on to my son.
It seems like he has taken the best parts of both of us. Now if he would just call his mom every once in a while!!
I did try for a very long time, but my daughter was pretty much raised by her mother due to my issues, and it showed with her recent behavior where she lied straight to my face.
I haven't ever spoken ill of her mother in front of her or treated her inappropriately, which her mother accused me of before we divorced, seeing as she was molested by her brothers and expected all men would do the same to their daughters.
I tried so very hard to be a decent person and do the right thing, when it turned out to be a waste of my time seeing as I can't believe the person she has become.
She chose her mother's family over staying with me in the end, and I haven't spoken to her for months so chances are she's going to do whatever it is that she wants to do and I will be the last to know when she dies from an overdose, or has to walk to streets to pay for her habit.
Thanks Randy. This is the sad reality of how families can sometimes work.
I would love to say things will work out between you and your daughter, but perhaps one day when your ex-wife is no longer around, your daughter will come to understand the true story and not the story she's been fed over the years.
It's always our job to keep ourselves emotionally and physically well and hopefully the universe will do the rest.
I believe that the most important thing we can do as a parent, is to be the best role model we can be for our child.
This is not a quick fix, but a parent has to work all of his/her life on becoming the type of person that he wants his child to become, and that is a huge responsibility.
You're right, but as my case has shown that's not always how children are parented. As you say nothing is ever a quick fix, but first we must work on being better people and then to our children.
From an early age I became aware of the many issues surrounding my childhood and vowed that if I had children I would do things differently. I am pleased to say that I stood up to my word and have.
There's a famous quote that says, 'it's easier to build strong children than to repair broken adults.' How true. If parents took that and held it close to their heart, no matter how hard it is for them, they would look to change how they parent.
I've done it myself so I know it works. It's a selfless act. Children must come first, regardless of parents' issues. But even without the issues, not all parents see parenting in that way.
This is so true, kids are very impressionable beings. If you say thing dishonestly they will sense it. Luckily my mom instilled some good morals in me. I in turn have passed those on to my son.
It seems like he has taken the best parts of both of us. Now if he would just call his mom every once in a while!!
Thanks Maria. An absolutely winning combination. Yes, the rest comes with maturity. All we can do as parents is sit back and wait.