Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities.
She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges.
In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines.
Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.
Food for thought: "I never write to disappear and escape. The truth is exactly the opposite. Most people strike me as escaping and disappearing in one way or another - into their jobs, their daily routines, their delusions about ...
Something inspirational: “Anyone can learn to fight. Hardly anyone learns to think.” TAMSYN MUIR, Gideon the Ninth Muir's quote reminds us that fighting is not just about physical strength; it can mean arguing, resisting ...
Food for thought: “All that you touch You Change. All that you Change Changes you.” OCTAVIA E. BUTLER, Parable of the Sower This quote reminds us that everything we do has an impact, and every experience changes ...
Thanks Tim. Sounds as though you have got the right balance. I would just add that knowing the right people and understanding the right people are two different things.
We can know the right people, but knowing and really knowing are very different. It is only when something happens that we begin to realise the person we thought we knew isn't the person in front of us.
But as you say, it is right you stay true to your core beliefs. Your core beliefs is what makes you unique, it's who you are and those should never change, no matter who you have in your life. Just be you.
If we were to read between the lines on this particular quote, we'd see it's spot on. We can know and not know.
Most of us will say we have no choice, particularly when it comes to family. But even when it comes to family we still have a choice.
We can choose to walk away if the relationship isn't right, or we can choose to say something if the relationship isn't right. Success isn't just a monetary thing. Success is how we handle ourselves, the results we get.
But as you say, we have to really know people, and we're not talking about what they say, we have to know their personalities; spiritually we must know them. We can think we know and then not really know.
They must be good for us, they must want to bring out the best in us as we must want to bring out the best in them.
Knowing the right people at the right time and keeping a deliberate distance from the wrong people has worked for me.
At the same time, staying true to my core beliefs and maintaining my quiet pride. But my big secret is to never appear too threatening.
Thanks Tim. Sounds as though you have got the right balance. I would just add that knowing the right people and understanding the right people are two different things.
We can know the right people, but knowing and really knowing are very different. It is only when something happens that we begin to realise the person we thought we knew isn't the person in front of us.
But as you say, it is right you stay true to your core beliefs. Your core beliefs is what makes you unique, it's who you are and those should never change, no matter who you have in your life. Just be you.
If we were to read between the lines on this particular quote, we'd see it's spot on. We can know and not know.
They do say it's not what you know but who you know. But knowing people isn't enough.
We have to really know people, people who compliment our personality and expectations for they are the only people worth knowing.
Most of us will say we have no choice, particularly when it comes to family. But even when it comes to family we still have a choice.
We can choose to walk away if the relationship isn't right, or we can choose to say something if the relationship isn't right. Success isn't just a monetary thing. Success is how we handle ourselves, the results we get.
But as you say, we have to really know people, and we're not talking about what they say, we have to know their personalities; spiritually we must know them. We can think we know and then not really know.
They must be good for us, they must want to bring out the best in us as we must want to bring out the best in them.