As a child, I would often revert inwards. I was good at it, but I didn't understand why. In a way it saved on the frustrations, as I had a lot of quiet time on my own.

I have learned it is more important to let go of the issues I have no control over. I find it a little more difficult with the bigger things. But with the little things I am able to switch off and walk away from those without giving those a second’s thought.

I deal with the issues within my control. It is because my brain is wired differently that I have had to find a different way to switch off. I find resolve by working with my intuition.  That way I worry less and sleep better.

I try to maintain a good bedtime routine and avoid anything that taxes me close to bed. It's a good time to quiet the mind. I also try to avoid television, or using my computer too close to bed.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “A quiet mind”

  1. Good ideas. Just wish I could do some of them myself like switch off.

    I usually can just lay my head down and I'm out, but I don't sleep well and I get up early in the morning to get a head start on everything and have a little quiet time to myself. The mornings are my time to watch the news and eat breakfast quietly.

    I'm usually in bed by 8:00pm and get up at 4:00am. I don't sleep all night most of the time and am awake around 1.30-2.00am then back to sleep. I know I carry worries to bed, but sometimes I don't.

    Sometimes I'm just so tired I go right off.

    1. It's easy to carry stress and that does have an impact on the way we sleep and for how long and sometimes we're not even aware that we have something on our mind before we go to bed. Things seem normal, but then we're awake like you say.

      The key for me has always been to clear my thoughts before they become stressful. Situations often arise during the day that if not dealt with can potentially can interfere with our mind, thoughts and sleep.

      It's very important to clear stress and/or issues we have however minor they seem.

  2. I don't believe I have ever really had a quiet mind.

    The only relief I have had from the noise in my head is when I completely disassociate which can be a very bad thing for me. It's not quite the same as switching my mind off but it's more like I'm outside of my body watching what's happening to me and not really caring what happens.

    I used to keep a journal when I was younger, but my Mother ended up reading them, so I really didn't dare to write them,anymore.

    Now I'm just very tired most of the time since I really don't sleep very well and my girlfriend thinks I should get up shortly after she does.

    She has no clue what it's like to live with the noise in my head. I've tried to be patient, but it's wearing thin, since I feel like I'm living with my Mother, sometimes.

    I just really pray that she gets back to work ASAP.and spends less time in my head where she doesn't belong!

    1. I would be tempted Randy to go back to writing a journal. I know how my writing helps me. I think sometimes it's the only way we can rationale with our thoughts on what we deal with.

      I also believe writing a journal helps keep us focused and helps us find our own space when we need it. It would definitely be one of my considerations for you.

  3. I've started to try and maintain a good bedtime routine too. It's so difficult sometimes in disciplining yourself.

    I think my illness has made me stronger too. Since I was a child, I've usually liked the odds against me. That way I know how well I can perform at something.

    1. I have to agree with you Mat. It can be hard to fall short on discipline, regardless of the discipline. Easy to slip into not so good routines. I tend to feel more agitated when that happens.

      In some respects my condition has made me stronger too, but in other ways not so much. I tend to emotionally struggle more when the odds are stacked against me.

      I'm pleased though, it works better for you.

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