How many of us use blame to excuse the way we behave? Blame is like anger. It allows a person to behave or act in a way that can be damaging and isn’t appropriate.
We tend to develop a thought pattern that sends our emotions into overdrive, we lose self-control, the result being we go on to say hurtful things. There are many reasons why we do it, but primarily it’s because of how we feel.
But it’s important we learn to take responsibility for ourselves, without apportioning blame or lashing out. Our struggles aren’t always someone else’s fault and whilst it’s not something we always think about, subconsciously we’re using blame as a means to control our life.
That way we don’t have to take and accept responsibility. We will use blame as a means of defence when we can’t admit to our mistakes. We will also use blame as a means of failing to accept certain situations that have happened in the past, as a way of denying them.
But when we recognise, deal with and begin to accept certain situations, we almost welcome accepting responsibility.
Everything you say here is true. Blaming people is not a good thing.
Thanks Randy. No it isn't.
I agree. Blame is nothing more than a bad habit If you do it constantly. I don't tend to blame others, unless I know the whole story.
Totally agree.
Blame can be a very toxic thing especially when it is used to avoid accepting responsibility for our own actions. My situation is all due to decisions I made, so now I have to face the consequences and move on.
I can't always blame my parents or other people for how my life is right now. I'm hoping and praying that I'll be able to get beyond all of this at some point.
I agree with you.
I think a lot of how we turn out in our adult life has something to do with our parents having parented us, although when we're old enough to make our own decisions, we then become responsible for not changing the things we're not happy with.