Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities.
She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges.
In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines.
Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.
Something inspirational: “Think wrongly, if you please, but in all cases think for yourself.” DORIS LESSING Thinking for yourself means more than having your own opinions. It means owning your words, your choices, and ...
Something inspirational: "We are not what happened to us. We are what we choose to become.” JAMES HOLLIS "I am drawn to James Hollis's words: 'We are not what happened to us. We are what we choose ...
Something inspirational: "Healing begins when we can hold our own experience with compassion." TARA BRACH Brach's quote reminds us that healing begins when we meet our pain with kindness instead of judgement ...
Yes, I have met many people who acted like they knew everything, but in reality they didn't know anything at all.
I also grew up having to pretend like I was confident, but inside I stayed that scared little kid who was afraid of his own shadow. It's no wonder I had so many issues which I tried to pretend that I didn't have and so many others paid the price for my ignorance. My daughter was one who paid a high price when her life could have been so different if I had only been brave enough to do the right thing.
I have always done what was best for everyone else, but now I'm trying to do what's best for me, even if it means not allowing my own daughter to treat me badly now. She doesn't know who I really am, I'm only now just figuring that out for myself.
Thanks Randy. Yes, I have been where you have been. Although both of our experiences have been slightly different, we have had similar lives.
It comes from being too pleasing as children. And whilst it worked to a certain degree, for those who are aware, it becomes apparent, those they are trying to please, will continue to please themselves.
Yes, being cocky comes from confidence. We can be cocky because we know, or we can be cocky, think we know and not really know. It's others having a conversation with us, who will come to know we don't really know. It's usually how that works.
Doing what's right for you Randy is the right thing to do. Where mistakes have been made, and we're human and will make mistakes, moving forward we can try to do better.
You own your mistakes Randy. Your daughter knows that and should be okay with what you're trying to change.
I agree having a 'cocky' attitude is usually a sign of over confidence or ignorance, but in my view, confidence in itself is not always a sign of ignorance.
Sometimes a degree of confidence is helpful in certain situations.
Yes, I have met many people who acted like they knew everything, but in reality they didn't know anything at all.
I also grew up having to pretend like I was confident, but inside I stayed that scared little kid who was afraid of his own shadow. It's no wonder I had so many issues which I tried to pretend that I didn't have and so many others paid the price for my ignorance. My daughter was one who paid a high price when her life could have been so different if I had only been brave enough to do the right thing.
I have always done what was best for everyone else, but now I'm trying to do what's best for me, even if it means not allowing my own daughter to treat me badly now. She doesn't know who I really am, I'm only now just figuring that out for myself.
Thanks Randy. Yes, I have been where you have been. Although both of our experiences have been slightly different, we have had similar lives.
It comes from being too pleasing as children. And whilst it worked to a certain degree, for those who are aware, it becomes apparent, those they are trying to please, will continue to please themselves.
Yes, being cocky comes from confidence. We can be cocky because we know, or we can be cocky, think we know and not really know. It's others having a conversation with us, who will come to know we don't really know. It's usually how that works.
Doing what's right for you Randy is the right thing to do. Where mistakes have been made, and we're human and will make mistakes, moving forward we can try to do better.
You own your mistakes Randy. Your daughter knows that and should be okay with what you're trying to change.
I agree having a 'cocky' attitude is usually a sign of over confidence or ignorance, but in my view, confidence in itself is not always a sign of ignorance.
Sometimes a degree of confidence is helpful in certain situations.
Thanks. Yes, I agree with you, but I also think how we present is important if other's are to take the right opinion of us away with them.
Being cocky can hide a multitude of 'sins.' What matters is what comes from the soul. Outward appearances are not the same.