It’s accepted that when we’re little, our parents make the decisions for us, that as we grow they will encourage us to make our own decisions so that we can begin to make our own decisions, follow our own path.
If like me that didn’t happen for you, you shouldn’t feel accountable or responsible, because they're not taking responsibility for the decisions they made for you. For years, I felt I had failed. Because of the control, the interest wasn’t there, the decisions weren’t mine.
Until we’re ready to let go, the anxiety based around those decisions will always continue to haunt us. But if you're not responsible for others' decisions, it's time to let go of the guilt.
I agree if someone else makes decisions for us or does not enable us to make decisions for ourselves through their actions and behaviour then that person is responsible for the ramifications of that - good or bad.
You shouldn't carry any burden or negativity for the decisions made for you when you had no real choice in the matter.
I agree, but for many of us that's not so easy to do. It's a human's greatest failing! It's the way our minds work.
Ditto!!
Thanks Lisa!!
We have no control for the decisions made for us when we're young.
I can see why one might have negative emotions for the decisions made for us as adults, because we feel we are not strong-willed to inform these persons that we can manage by ourselves.
Thanks Maria. I can see too and believe it's a confidence thing.
For many years as the adult, through a new thought process and working on my confidence, I managed to get my point across, but unfortunately it had no effect on the person who could have changed my life.
I think you're right.