Being unaccountable means that we will never take responsibility for ourselves, or our actions. It also means we’ll continue to apportion blame and find excuses, put things off and indulge in only doing the minimum.

Accountability is the total opposite; accountability is taking responsibility for all our actions regardless of the consequences. If something goes wrong, we are accountable. But how many of us would rather plead ignorance, than take responsibility and be accountable for what we put out there?

We find it easier to say, ‘I didn’t do it,’ ‘It’s not my job,’ or ‘I didn’t know,’ rather than accept accountability. Many of us, disappointingly, are accountable only when we know we’re not going to get into trouble, or be penalised for something we’ve done.

Children often seem to be the worst culprits, but if parents don't teach their children accountability, they will never be accountable as adults. The less accountable we are, the more we will take a back seat, we will never be to blame even if we are, and we will always pass the buck to someone else. When we’re not accountable, any white lies we tell will always turn into more serious ones.

Being accountable is important and is the right choice to make. It’s also part of the healing process because a change in attitude will promote emotional growth.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Being accountable”

  1. I always try to be accountable for my actions because if I didn't my conscience would bother me to know end. I probably take blame when things aren't even my fault. Environmentally I use recyclable grocery bags and not the plastic ones or the paper bags either.

    I think children do need to learn early about being accountable. You're right that if they don't learn when they're young, they will not be accountable when they are adults.

    I don't think people teach their kids these life lessons enough (in the US anyway).

    1. I'm like you Lisa I am accountable for my actions and have taught my children to do the same thing. Although it doesn't always work out that way. Children tend to listen to what they want.

      I do agree with you that perhaps not enough is being done to teach children about accountability. It happens in the UK too, not just in the US.

  2. I like your post Ilana.

    I come from a very simple family. I have always been taught accountability by my parents. I remember they said, 'whatever you sow, you will reap/harvest them.' That is why I always consider things before doing them.

    1. I think your parents were very wise. They have obviously taught you well.

      I agree it's always important to think before we act or say things. Thanks for posting.

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