Correcting behaviour

Date 20 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
If you’re unfortunate to be born into a dysfunctional family where there’s no parent taking responsibility, or one parent’s being given too much responsibility and control over another, it’s easy to see why the cycle might continue with the children. With dysfunctional families, it’s standard practice for parents to unconsciously…
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The way we see things

Date 18 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.” – Anais Nin. How different relationships would be, how much easier our lives would be if we saw things as they are and not how we are, or how we interpret them. Seeing things as we are…
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Unassuming qualities

Date 17 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
My grandmother was unassuming. I loved her unassuming personality and that quality in her. There were many other endearing qualities of hers that I embraced. She was happy in her own company. When someone is unassuming, when something big happens in their life, they deal with it in the same…
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Disappointed with ourselves

Date 15 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
How many times have we uttered the words, ‘I’m so disappointed with myself’ and mean every word, because it’s truly how we feel? If we fail to meet our expectations, or expectations are placed on us and we’re struggling to meet those, we become embroiled in our own personal battle.…
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Parents and Children

Date 12 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
Although we sometimes disagree with the way our parents parent us, it is not something we can change, but something we can change for our children. I am a parent myself. For any parent it would be easy for us to see why our parents choose to parent the way…
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Dealing with stress again

Date 11 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
I’m having a little bit of a downer on myself today. I seem to have to deal with something every day. I talked in one of my previous journals about the support network we build around us. The last few days of stress, have tested me resolve greatly. In an…
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More Sensory Issues

Date 9 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
’ve never understood why I always had to be in a routine, until I came across an article from someone with cerebral palsy who has the same sensory issues/sensitivities as me. Anything that is new or unfamiliar is scary, because ...
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How others define us

Date 6 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
It is what we do that makes us who we are. They are characteristics of how we see ourselves and how others see us. I could define myself by the fact I have Cerebral Palsy, but I choose not to. As a child because I would start something and not…
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Shaping others

Date 5 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
A 20th century Catholic monk and writer Thomas Merton, wrote: “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image ...
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New Year thoughts

Date 2 January 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
Yesterday I woke up to a New Year and I’m not looking back at all the negatives. Looking back just allows us to pick fault with issues or circumstances we could have improved on or even changed and that’s not helpful. I’ve never bought into the idea of resolutions, I…
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Giving ourselves control

Date 31 December 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
I’m not sure how long I was in counselling, when something just wasn’t working for me. The tools I needed to help me deal with my issues just weren’t happening. The counsellor had something to do with it, but it was in that moment that I came to realise it…
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Making excuses

Date 30 December 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
Excuses are reasons to defend the way we behave and to avoid acting on something we should be dealing with. Excuses are a means of negating responsibility. But we can either continue to make excuses, or we can put things right and get our lives back on track. We’d rather…
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