When souls connect

Date 19 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
The soul is what we have in common, and yet we can spend a lifetime in relationships thinking we have nothing in common, with the people we share our lives with. We may think our relationships aren’t working because we have nothing in common, but it’s not always about having…
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Admitting our guilt

Date 18 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
There would be no need for us to feel guilty, unless of course we’ve got something to feel guilty about and if we’ve got something to feel guilty about, then we should deal with it. For those of us who carry guilt or choose to live in denial over guilt,…
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Parents' perceptions

Date 13 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Our parents’ perceptions of us and how they see and behave towards us, will be the same way we see and behave towards our own children. When it comes to parenting, it’s easy for parents to judge. Whether it’s part of a twin scenario or not, it’s important children are…
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Stop drawing comparisons

Date 9 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
We must stop comparing our show reel to another person’s show reel. Their show reel isn’t ours, so it would be wrong to draw comparisons as if it were. Our lives may not start out perfectly, but as we continue to compare, we will spend a lifetime drawing comparisons. Instead…
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Our basic needs

Date 6 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
As human beings, we have basic needs. Basic needs in life are what we need if we are to function and function well. We all need access to the basic needs, including shelter, food and clothing that is necessary for our individual self-sufficiency. We also have emotional needs that will…
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People & their actions

Date 3 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
When someone does something that hurts us, it’s easy to see why we would hate that person. Perhaps what we should be solely thinking is, ‘I hate what you’ve done.' We can hate what someone does, particularly if what they’ve done leaves us in a bad emotional space, but it’s…
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Modelling behaviour

Date 2 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
We model our behaviour on others and expect them to be as we are, but that’s neither realistic, nor how things should be. We are as we are, they are as they are. Unfortunately, we want them to fit into how we see them, easier in some respects, but not…
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Bringing understanding

Date 29 April 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
We can’t erase the memories, but through our understanding and finding a place for those memories, we free ourselves of the bitterness. The memories brought about through other people’s actions are then remembered as a valuable lesson. Letting go will never cancel out another person’s actions or the frustrations we…
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Look to change

Date 25 April 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Throughout our lives, we may emotionally struggle. We’ve probably been insecure at one point, had low self-esteem, lacked a little confidence, but we should still want to put things right for others: the world needs more of it. When how we feel and cope begins to interfere with how we…
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Protect, not scar

Date 24 April 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
As parents, we must make ourselves aware of how we communicate with our children at every stage, because it is in the early years where emotional scarring begins. It is our job to protect, not scar our children. Some parents may have good intentions and set out to protect their…
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Using mediation

Date 21 April 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Although mediation is involved and refers to an intervention in a dispute to resolve disputes, there is a different explanation that works in life too. Mediation is an intervention in a process or relationship and should work in families too. Not many families use mediation. They offer an opinion, the…
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Differing opinions

Date 19 April 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Because we’re all a product of our own individual experiences and upbringing, it is only natural that our opinions will differ on a whole range of topics. The more our opinions differ, the less accepting we will be on other people’s opinions. There is a train of thought that the…
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