Malicious undertones

Date 2 June 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
With any form of undertone comes an undercurrent of feelings, bubbling under the surface and that can bring with it malicious intent. And through that malicious intent, through hurting and struggling with something will emotionally lash out at the ones we love, spend the most time with. The nature of…
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Working on our core values

Date 30 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Unless we walk a mile in another person’s shoes, we can never know what that person struggles with, but that shouldn’t stop us from trying to help. It goes back to our core values and what we’re taught as children. We don’t start out with empathy or compassion, but we…
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Things coming full circle

Date 29 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Have you ever noticed how after a series of events, the same situation you started with still exists and you end up back at the place you initially chose to walk away from? Even if we don’t believe in how the universe works, what is meant to happen will always…
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Closure through dreams

Date 26 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Dreams bring to life unresolved issues, thoughts and feelings that we struggle to deal with through our conscious thoughts. And even if we’re not seeing those as struggles, our unconscious won’t let those thoughts or feelings go until we recognise and deal with them. Dreams can allow us to let…
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Not enough listening

Date 23 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Not enough listening and too much talking. Our job isn’t so much to give our opinion, but to listen instead, or better still, allow the other person to ask for an opinion, without us thinking it’s our right to give one, let alone stand in judgment. Perhaps that’s where we’re…
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When souls connect

Date 19 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
The soul is what we have in common, and yet we can spend a lifetime in relationships thinking we have nothing in common, with the people we share our lives with. We may think our relationships aren’t working because we have nothing in common, but it’s not always about having…
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Admitting our guilt

Date 18 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
There would be no need for us to feel guilty, unless of course we’ve got something to feel guilty about and if we’ve got something to feel guilty about, then we should deal with it. For those of us who carry guilt or choose to live in denial over guilt,…
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Parents' perceptions

Date 13 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
Our parents’ perceptions of us and how they see and behave towards us, will be the same way we see and behave towards our own children. When it comes to parenting, it’s easy for parents to judge. Whether it’s part of a twin scenario or not, it’s important children are…
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Stop drawing comparisons

Date 9 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
We must stop comparing our show reel to another person’s show reel. Their show reel isn’t ours, so it would be wrong to draw comparisons as if it were. Our lives may not start out perfectly, but as we continue to compare, we will spend a lifetime drawing comparisons. Instead…
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Our basic needs

Date 6 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
As human beings, we have basic needs. Basic needs in life are what we need if we are to function and function well. We all need access to the basic needs, including shelter, food and clothing that is necessary for our individual self-sufficiency. We also have emotional needs that will…
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People & their actions

Date 3 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
When someone does something that hurts us, it’s easy to see why we would hate that person. Perhaps what we should be solely thinking is, ‘I hate what you’ve done.' We can hate what someone does, particularly if what they’ve done leaves us in a bad emotional space, but it’s…
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Modelling behaviour

Date 2 May 2017
Author Ilana Estelle
We model our behaviour on others and expect them to be as we are, but that’s neither realistic, nor how things should be. We are as we are, they are as they are. Unfortunately, we want them to fit into how we see them, easier in some respects, but not…
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