As children, we trust our parents and don't stop to question whether what they thought was best for us was the best; as children I’m not sure we’re equipped.
It became clear that decisions being made around my disability were wrong that where our parents have our backs, they may sometimes have their own.
We're not always in a position to consider how valid and reliable their information is, what the merits are and whether the information being presented are really being made in our own interests and whether they are right for us.
Parents may continue to evaluate things for their children through their own evaluations. The same principles apply to other areas too. When we use critical evaluation, we’re working on developing our own understanding in more detail.
As children when we're old enough, it is important we evaluate and judge things for ourselves, so that we come to understand our lives better.
As children we don't stop to question it; we all trust our parents advice and believe they are there for our best. Unfortunately for many, this is not the case.
I have been told that an idyllic childhood doesn't prepare us for the challenges of adulthood and the relationships we go on to form. Perhaps that is why our childhood's are rarely great.
As you say we have to learn to trust our own judgement. I did that from an early age, as I had no parental guidance, good or bad, but I wouldn't advocate that either.
There is so much stress and strife in our lives, I'm not sure we ever get that idyllic childhood. Something always gets in the way.
My experiences and my blogs continue to show that. I only know of one person who said she had an idyllic childhood and you're right, she wasn't prepared for certain aspects of her life, once she became an adult.
Regardless of whether we have a good childhood or not, I still believe we have to form our own judgements, but we also have to have the ability to listen to our parent's advice; when it's given.
I appreciate you didn't get that but there's always two sides to any story. I know in my own case, although I wasn't to blame initially for my issues based on my physical and emotional disabilities, I know I wasn't coping, neither did my parents. They gave up too easily; either through embarrassment, guilt or just not knowing how to help me.
But if we dig deep, we usually find and know the answer. Our parents' decisions not to parent isn't a conscious decision. It comes about through an unconscious predisposition of circumstances and experiences that they fail to get a grip on and that's where we are partly responsible.