My thoughts are all over the place today. I'm dealing with disappointment, feelings of sadness and grief and dealing with apathy too. I inevitably bring more stress into my life, when I subject myself to situations all the time.

My spiritual beliefs teach me that when we don’t succeed, it’s because we were never meant to. Life shouldn't be about reaching great heights all the time, because if we did we would have nothing really exciting to aspire to.

Disappointment is okay too. Life should be about living each day to the fullest and being happy, whether we meet with success, or disappointment. But we should learn to deal with disappointment, because that's part of life.

Therefore we should perhaps accept that at that moment it wasn’t our time to shine. There will be other times and we must be patient.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Dealing with disappointment”

  1. I agree with you. Just accept what comes along and you won't be disappointed. I say, "oh well, that's life" a lot and accept what is dealt to me; or "that's my luck."

    It's like having something and losing it. I don't get disappointed anymore, I just enjoy the time I had it.

    1. That's good Lisa. The hard part is keeping up with accepting our disappointments. We usually start off well intentioned until they begin to get to us.

      Thanks for posting Lisa.

  2. Disappointment is one of those things that eventually we all have to face.

    Sometimes it's hard not to take things personally, but I guess the lesson is that it's not usually personal, but as you say just circumstances.

    I like Lisa's point about accepting what comes along with a 'ce la vie' approach.

    1. I agree with both of your points.

      As long as we continue to perceive disappointment in a positive way, we will never take disappointment personally.

      I take the view that if I have done my best there is no reason why I should.

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