It is because rejection comes in many forms and guises that it is not always easy to make the rejection connection. But the rejection I'm talking about, isn’t for example, being rejected from a job or a college application. It goes far deeper than that. Being rejected, means you’re being palmed off for someone else to look after you.
Rejecting a child
When a parent rejects a child, it’s usually a sibling that's given the job. But like a knife it can cut into you, the longer it continues, the deeper the wound becomes, the more mentally and emotionally affected you become. Rejection is usually something that starts in childhood.
Each experience we have is stored in the psyche, as a memory. The more rejection you deal with the more the psyche is affected, the less you will cope. But no matter the circumstance, it is important to take back control.
Rejection can be subtle
Rejection can be subtle and not always obvious. It's not something we always relate to, because we assume that person has our back. Instead we may get on with life and not think about the fact that we have been dealing with rejection.
Rejection is something I have been dealing with since I was a child, and it never gets any easier. My mother used it as a brainwashing tool and it was extremely effective.
Everything was great as long as I did everything she wanted me to do, but the moment I didn't she ignored me and acted like I didn't exist.
It gave me such a complex that I have been afraid to take any chances with people. It's no wonder that I have ended up in the same type of relationships.
I'm sure that is also why I have been afraid to take chances in my life, either like getting into writing which is one thing that I have always wanted to do.
Today there are many options for publishing something myself which I may have to do. It also helps that I may know of someone who may be able to help me accomplish this!
I want to be able to have the chance to do something with my life, while I still can. I've had someone who I considered a friend also reject me recently, which has only served to remind me of what it was like as a kid.
I'll get over it, but I can't say that I am happy about it.
Thanks Randy. Yes, I'm hearing you. There is no excuse for any child or adult to have to deal with rejection.
It is only when you experience rejection, that you know what it feels like and will consciously choose to change things. Rejection is difficult to work through, when we fail to understand why a person chooses to behave like that.
It is always much harder to come to terms with something when we fail to understand. It is important to know that as long as you're not rejecting someone else, it is their karma.
When it comes to writing Randy, it's good to start by getting some of those thoughts down on paper and see where it takes you. Using reflection to clear negative energy, which we all have, is always good.