I am sure we've come across family and friends who we know care, but their actions and support don’t show us they care; which can leave us hurt, frustrated and angry.

I personally don't believe anyone wittingly goes out of their way to chastise or ignore what someone else goes through, but part of the problem stems from that person, from their past; from how they cope or how self-absorbed they have become. It’s never done on a conscious level.

As we begin to nurture children, we teach them how to behave, how to care and how to be caring, how to support, how to reach out to others when they need support. If children aren't shown these things, it's less likely they will do it as adults.

It’s true that we can show children these things, but that doesn’t mean they will go on to do these things. Stress and strains of life can change how we feel. Even with things that we deal with, it is important we don't lose sight of why we’re here.

It isn’t right for us to continually make our own life an excuse, as to why we don't reach out to others and yet that is what the majority of us do. Our lives seem to be a permanent excuse. Today show someone you care.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Do we care?”

  1. I had this last week when my brother and my sister in law were here. They took no interest in anything I was doing. Yet I am supposed to be excited about my nieces' lives.

    I guess I was trying to blend into the background too much because there was a lot going on last week. Plus I was not around that much any way.

    1. Randy your nieces should be as interested in what you do, as you are in what they do. Because you're the adult your supposed to take an interest regardless of what they do.

      If children are taught to take an interest in people generally, I am sure they would be happy to do that. I think it has to work both ways.

  2. I don't think people took that much interest in what I did when I was growing up.

    I learned to show compassion to others and I think I taught my daughter the same. I hope I can teach my other child and any grandchildren the same.

    1. Parents were more practical and didn't always know how to support their children emotionally back then.

      It is good that you have taught your daughter and will go on to continue to teach compassion to your own family. We cannot change what others do, we can only change what we do.

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