"No matter how many years it's taken for me to get to this point, finding out a disability I didn't know was one, still feels raw.
In nearly 9 years of writing, the hardest part has been for me to come to terms with the reasoning behind not knowing about my disability, my diagnoses and being forced to accept this was my life. The bigger picture has brought little comfort, but I also know that without the life I’ve had, I wouldn’t have achieved the things I have.
To get to where we want to be, we should look for the understanding, even if through our understanding it's not something we can change. We can only change things for our own children, so that history doesn’t repeat itself. History shouldn't repeat itself. It was important I had understanding on what was a difficult life.
The silver lining is not the experiences we're struggling with, but the lessons we may take from those experiences – and being able to turn our life around."
I watched a film last night and there was a line in it when a relative was explaining to a child about a custody claim and the relative said that everything was temporary. I think this is a comforting way of looking at things.
Now you understand the bigger picture and all the players in it, you can find a place for how you have been treated and move it away.
I am sure you find comfort through writing about your experiences and in doing so finding further comfort in helping others. You have shown how to turn your experiences into something incredibly positive.
Thank you. Yes, I find comfort through writing about my experiences. It's just not easy to find somewhere to place those experiences, there were that many, no-one would wish to own.
I agree all things are temporary and it's a good way to look at certain situations, but 46 years was a long time for it to be temporary. That could be anything from a month to 6 months to a year, even 2 years. But 46 years is rather a permanent fixture.