If you have been affected by helicopter parents, this blog should help. The issues of being a child of helicopter parents means there will be many challenges that follow you into adulthood. It's not uncommon for children to feel anxious, when their parents are overly-protective, controlling, domineering, involving themselves in your everyday.

The following tips should help:

Tell your parents how you feel

Communication is important. Openly talk to your parents about how you feel. Be specific about what you're comfortable with. Try to help your parents understand that you appreciate their concern, their help, but it's important for you to make your own decisions, for you to have your space and independence.

Set boundaries

Boundaries are important in any relationship. Establish clear boundaries and expectations for your relationship. This might mean setting aside specific times for your parents, or to limit their involvement in certain aspects of your life.

Practice assertive communication

When expressing your needs or concerns, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. For example, "I feel overwhelmed when you call me every hour. Could we schedule a specific time to talk each day?" instead of "You're always calling me and it's annoying."

Develop problem-solving skills

Encourage your parents to ask you questions and help you find solutions to problems. This will empower you to take ownership of your decisions and develop critical thinking skills.

Develop coping mechanisms

Learn healthy coping mechanisms, such as deep breathing, exercise, or journalling, to manage stress and anxiety caused by your parents' over-involvement.

Focus on self-care

Engage in activities that you enjoy, or spend time with friends. This can help you develop a sense of identity and purpose outside of your relationship with your parents.

Parents' behaviour

Often parents' behaviour is as a result of their own upbringing, their own fears, insecurities and lack of understanding, rather than a personal attack on you.

Seek professional help

If you're struggling to cope with the stress and anxiety caused by helicopter parenting, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. They can provide you with personalised guidance and support.

Practice self-compassion

Be kind to yourself. Remember that you're doing the best you can in a challenging situation.

Conclusion

As parents at some point we will have done a little extra to make our child's life easier. It's what parents do, right? But the problem with helicopter parenting is that when it comes a regular everyday occurrence, it hinders healthy development.

It is essential for parents to strike a balance between providing support and guidance while also giving their children the space to grow and develop independently. By setting boundaries and encouraging self-reliance, parents can help their children develop into confident, capable and self-assured individuals.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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