Last week was tough and I’m pleased it’s over. There are some people who come into our lives for a short while that we need to walk away from, because they make our lives difficult.

We’re taught by our parents to put trust in people because that is considered the right thing to do, that they’ll watch our backs, but the reality for us is that it doesn’t always work out that way.

After another stressful visit to my heath care practitioner last week I’ve made a decision about moving on to a new practice, because I’ve lost all confidence in my health care practitioner, the practice and because my confidence has been hit.

Those experiences could have quite easily spilled into other areas of my life if I didn’t have the foresight to understand what was going on and what I was dealing with. I believe some people are just supposed to come into our lives fleetingly and this is one such time.

It doesn’t mean we have failed, it just means we cannot change others and how they deal with us. We can only make a decision for ourselves if things don’t change and in some cases, we must decide if it’s time to move on.

Just because they’re in our lives, doesn’t always mean they’re supposed to stay and that's okay.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Leaving and moving on”

  1. Yes, I too believe this. I've made several acquaintances over my lifetime that lasted only a short period of time and I believe too that's how it is supposed to be.

    They may be put there for a certain reason and that's it, then we move on never seeing or hearing from them at all. Maybe they are there to help us with a problem in our life or show us something else and nothing more.

    I met this guy once. We started talking on the phone almost nightly for about 2 hours. He lived about 2 hours away from me and we hadn't formally met yet, but just talking to him made a difference in my life at that time.

    I was just trying to get over my divorce and was living alone with my daughter. We finally met when he came up for a weekend stay. He went back home and we continued to talk on the phone for another month then things just stopped.

    He and I both enjoyed our talks. We had a lot in common and he just helped me through a difficult time. The last time I spoke to him was after I got remarried and he called one evening and I told him I was married but we agreed to be just friends.

    I haven't heard from him since, so I believe he was put there to help me through a difficult time which he did and that was all.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I agree. It sounds as though your chats did get you through the bad times of having to deal with your divorce. You probably helped each other in that time you chatted.

      I believe we must always be gracious whatever we're dealing with, but that's not always how things go. I am grateful for my experiences.

      I choose not to see things negatively, but constructive on how I can make things better.

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