Without making the link between the past and the present, our lives may never change and the help we get may have little or no impact.

When we leave the past behind without the understanding, history can sometimes have a way of repeating itself because nothing changes, and we fail to let go and move on. When we come to understand we may make the link.

To make the link, we need to understand the life we’ve lived and then decide if the life we're living is the one we want to continue with, or the one we need to change.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Make the link”

  1. Yes, this does seem to be the case, which makes a lot of sense the way you have put it!

    There have been so many instances of history repeating itself in my life. I've made a lot of the same mistakes under similar circumstances but just with different people. It's pretty much like the time, the loop that they talk about in sci-fi movies where they're stuck repeating the same time period over and over.

    My biggest downfall has been trying to be the knight in shining armour, rescuing the damsel in distress, when the reality was a lot of times they didn't want to be rescued or even help themselves.

    I'm just very tired and looking to move on before I end up becoming a bitter old man!

    1. Yes I did the same thing for many years also; I kept following the same unhappy patterns, until I eventually made the link and understood the changes I needed to make.

      I hope you're able to move on and make that link for yourself very soon. Thanks Randy.

  2. Yes, I agree. It's like when we have kids.

    If we want them to grow up and be different from what we did, they have to understand the mistakes and other things that happened in our life first and also be able to explain why certain things happened and the consequences that went along with the behavior.

    1. Thanks Lisa. Yes of course, children like adults must also understand so that they make the link for themselves. That way history doesn't have to repeat itself.

      It's when we don't make links we go on to repeat our mistakes.

  3. I agree. The past is our key to the future but we cannot make those connections without first making the links as you describe.

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