Having significant neurological impairments where my emotions are mainly affected, means I can be immature. My neurological emotional impairments having stunted my emotional growth.

Where our milestones help us understand and adapt to the next stage of our lives, I missed out on all mine. As a result, I haven't been able to equate or understand each phase I've lived through.

But having Asperger’s has helped me acquire a knowledge of the world around me, using my heightened senses to the exclusion of everything else. I couldn't write and run my site in the way I do without it. Bringing understanding and clarity into the equation is more important for me because it takes away the fear, anxiety and panic I have to deal with.

Generally, we grow into adulthood through the other side of adolescence. I know that my ability to hone in on my intuition, using that as my base line allows me to understand what it is to be the adult. Not everyone will understand how that works. I am only beginning to understand it myself.

I become irritated when through years of being judged on the way I am, others still think they know me, but they simply can’t because I’m only just working me out.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “My adult challenges”

  1. I find it both upsetting and amazing that this was your life. You have achieved so much just by finding your own understanding on the symptoms you've always thought you had.

    Slowly you're working through all your symptoms, coming up with new understanding and writing about them and now helping others too with what they get to deal with.

    You didn't give in or give up. An inspirational thing to do.

    1. Yes, I was determined unconsciously not to give in or give up, although others had already given up on me.

      Although it's not easy for me to recall this was my life, because I had years of struggle, I now draw comfort from what I do.

      I am in a better place, doing what I love to do with the Diary. That's the way I am choosing to look at it.

  2. From what I've read and what we've discussed, you behave and act very much as an adult!

    You've accomplished so much more, given your upbringing and daily challenges with your disability, more than people that are able bodied and play victim and don't want to take responsibility. You're so amazing with everything!

    You've really conquered this world, taken it by the horns and shown it who's boss!

    1. Awww thanks Bonnie. I never saw my issues or life in this way, but you have now given me a new way to think.

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