When we're born with a disability and we present differently, other people’s perceptions of how we present will be a challenge for us.
Neurological Struggles
But it is because of our neurological struggles that it becomes obvious. With a disability, we shouldn't have to change, just so others fit into our lives. Instead, they need to fix themselves and fit into ours.
For others, how they end up with their perceptions isn’t always clear. That depends on their own mental health – how we see the world will change from person to person. We should include environment, conditioning and upbringing because they are the catalyst of how we think and see people.
Reality Exists as it is
Reality is indifferent to our thoughts – it exists as it is, unchanged by our perceptions. Reality is truth, a fixed and objective constant. In contrast, our perceptions and interpretations of reality are fluid and subjective. It is crucial to distinguish between principle (the objective reality) and opinion (our personal perception of it).
Our Thinking can be Altered
Where a concept can't be altered, our thinking and opinion can. We should differentiate between the two so that we’re looking at our reality in its entirety and not on how we want that situation to be. It is important to listen, to keep an open-mind and to interpret correctly. While many aspects of our reality are predetermined and beyond our control, new ideas have the power to shape and redefine it. A concept yet to be conceived can bring about change, creating a new reality.
We tend to look and work out for ourselves how we want an outcome to go rather than work with our reality, what that reality is and what it teaches us.
Although our perceptions may work for us in the short-term, in the long term they never will, if they don't work in harmony with our realities.
I think your blog is spot on. We need to come to work with our realities more, then base any perceptions we have around what we know in our reality.
That way our lives may work out better.
Thank you. Yes, we ignore our realities, misinterpret our realities, and choose to base our perceptions around how we want our realities to go, not what is in front of us.
Those can never work. It is important we're aware and can understand how to deal with both. Our perceptions must always work in harmony with our realities, so that the outcome is one we expect.