Relationships may sometimes reveal our own hidden issues. Have you ever noticed that when you see, or are in the company of someone who is annoyed, or angry, a part of what you see in them is usually a reflection of a hidden issue in you?

Sometimes what others say can reinforce those hidden issues. It would therefore be easy to see why we would be attracted to some people and not others and why some relationships are more comfortable than others.

We may also live with insecurities, but may not always be consciously aware. It’s particularly true if we have a history that spans years with someone. When we unconsciously think about and we take a look back at our experiences, it is certainly easier to see the relationship patterns.

There may be some resistance to how we may navigate our relationships, but being able to change a relationship outcome positively, is well worth the effort in the longer term.

Where change becomes a new outcome, that in itself can be a challenge, but change has to be good if it brings about more peace.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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