For us to live a more harmonious life we must make self-improvements, but that starts with self-awareness. When we become self-aware, we become knowledgeable in some or all parts of our lives.
We should continue to work on ourselves, for self-improvement leads to positive, emotional and mental health. We should always be truthful about ourselves because that helps transform our habits.
We may be a little conservative with the truth around progress. For example, those who try to lose weight may continue to convince themselves and others that they’re eating healthy, but the reality is their eating habits haven’t changed at all.
The standard phrase such as, ‘I’ve been trying really hard recently,’ doesn’t quantify or back our claims that we have been working hard or achieving what we set out to achieve. But being conservative with the truth will impact our goal for developing greater self-awareness and self-improvement.
Self-good statements cannot help us develop self-improvement, our actions do. They simply allow us to continue to lie to ourselves about progress.
Do or do not, there is no try. This is what comes to mind, which I don't exactly remember the Yoda saying in one of the Star Wars movies, but I'm sure that he did.
I have spent most of my life trying, when in reality I haven't been doing much more than the dog paddle to keep myself from drowning.
There have been so many things that I wanted to do in my life, while at the same time feeling like nothing that I would do, would be considered worthwhile.
People haven't appreciated any of my efforts, which was pointed out by my own daughter who treated me in a way I never expected her to after I took a 5,000 mile round trip to rescue her from the nightmare that she was living in.
It was just a vivid reminder of what my biggest downfall has been all along, as far as subconsciously choosing to try helping those people who refuse to help themselves.
It's hard to work on self-improvement when you're living with someone who expects you to, but then sabotages every move you make so that it becomes a vicious cycle of self-defeatism and negativity.
I was brainwashed as a child to be a people pleaser, so it's no wonder I can't seem to imagine what a normal life would be like.
I have sacrificed everything I have ever wanted to make others happy, but when it came down to it, nothing I could ever do for them would be enough.
I need to learn to focus on my own wants, needs, and desires without consistently feeling so guilty about it.
Thanks Randy. Yes, I feel for you too, but those aren't your issues. I've had to do it myself and believe that if use your experiences as lessons, you will benefit from what they're trying to teach you.
Your daughter will have her own lessons to learn, which are different lessons to you. But if you have your time again and you would do the same thing to help her, you know you've done right by her.
It's important you don't feel guilty, instead choose to concentrate on yourself, so that you can work on being the best you can be.