Do we even recognise our own character traits? We don’t see our own characters, but others see what we don’t see.
We’re either not consciously aware we're negative, or we're aware but we don’t know how to change, or we’re just not interested in changing because it’s what we know. We're stuck in a rut. We’re comfortable, not because it’s the best place for us to be in, but because to change means having to come out of our comfort zone.
We know what we know and we don't stop to question what we know. To quit the negative cycle means working on our emotions and that’s the part we find the most difficult. As the years move on, we continue to stay stuck in a cycle of negative patterns that become who we are. We’re comfortable, only because we don’t have to deal with change.
The sad reality is that many of us will continue to live with negative patterns and in doing so, will never get to experience our lives positively.
I think you're right, we only see in ourselves what we want to see and it is often only others around us that see us in a different light.
I agree that we can change negativity too and that is probably one of the most important aspects of our own growth. Recognising that ability is one of the most important attributes we can attain.
I agree. It's such a shame many of us don't either recognise or understand that we all have the ability to change.
We see others changing their lives, but sadly don't equate change for ourselves.
Yes, I believe we are in our comfort zone and just don't want to change. It's what we've known all our life. That's me.
I have my way of doing things and when someone tries to change that I buck like a bronco. I will change things when I'm ready and feel comfortable doing it.
My son is routine oriented. He gets very out of sorts when things change. My poodle is even in a routine! I'm not against change it just gets me out of sorts when I have to change something.
I think my husband likes to change things around just to get a reaction out of me!
Thanks Lisa. Yes, as long as what you're doing isn't keeping you stuck, then there's no harm done.
The problem comes when we're stuck in a rut and we can't change, because we're stuck. From what you say in your response, it sounds as though you're fully in control of what you think you need to change.
If there are emotional and physical things that we have to deal with on a grand scale, sometimes change can be hard, in some cases even daunting.