The most important thing about our emotions is how we relate, connect and deal with them. Taking emotional control is important if we are going to manage our emotions and our lives well.
It is easy to become distracted
When it comes to our emotions, it’s easy to become distracted, particularly if we have more than one thing on our mind. Acknowledging and then working on our distractions can help us address any unaddressed emotions.
Becoming aware of how we feel
Underlying experiences and beliefs can activate our emotions and how we feel. Therefore, it is important that we are able to become aware of just how we feel. What we tell ourselves works beyond any conscious reasoning, so we should start by correcting those.
Our emotional triggers
The real emotional triggers are our unconscious thoughts. Although other people and events will trigger unpleasant feelings and reactions from us, they are not the only cause. It is important we own our emotions, but before we can do that, we need to understand them.
Without understanding, we may even deny our emotions exist or that they belong to us, let alone deal with them. Taking emotional control is essential if we are to live well and have good emotional and physical health.
I'm not very well connected to my emotions since I spent most of my life trying to detach from them, as they were a liability in the world I grew up in. I haven't really felt anything in such a long time, so I don't have any idea of what I'm feeling in the moment.
My emotions were irrelevant to my parents and not worth the aggravation of trying to deal with them, so I buried them in very unhealthy ways. It was the main reason I started drinking and smoking pot, which didn't work well.
I'm very hesitant to plug back into those old feelings, as it would be extremely painful, but I know it's what I have to do in order to regain control of my own life, which hasn't been the case for a long time.
Thanks Randy. If your parents would have been model parents Randy, you wouldn't have taken the path you took, so it's not your fault.
I have had the same, but different dilemma throughout my life also, until I took emotional control and changed the outcome for myself.
My circumstances to yours may differ, and the outcome once through the other end may differ, but the emotional conflict and the guilt that ties us to our issues and circumstances will always be the same.
You have the tools to make a decision about your life. You have the understanding behind your parents and your childhood.
But as you say, you're not getting any younger and with each passing day a day older. I feel it's important you take emotional control and decide on a way forward yourself.
Emotional health is an essential part of our overall health and helps us take better control of our thoughts and feelings so we can better cope with life’s challenges and deal with our emotions, good or bad.
I remember reading that research shows that emotional health is a skill and there are steps we can take to improve our emotional health and be happier. Taking an active part in The CP Diary community is a good start.
Thank you. Yes, being proactive is the key to us taking charge of our emotions and our overall health. As you say, taking charge of our emotions is the first step for us taking better control of our thoughts and feelings.
That's kind, thank you. I always take something from my own blogs. There is a message in each blog, that helps each of us identify with our own experiences and then with each other on the forum. It is from here that we can become and can stay proactive for ourselves.