It would be lovely to think we live in a world where we all have the best of intentions. That we do things because we’re well meaning that unconditionally we want the best for each other, without a hidden agenda.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t work like that. Another person’s intentions are not always as honourable as ours. But maybe it’s not as black and white as that. Individuals may start with good intentions, but may fail to act or follow those intentions through. Perhaps the lack of intention is due to procrastination, where they are personally.

Good intentions will always be meaningless, unless those intentions are followed through in a way that helps, or benefits others. Individually our wants and needs are different, so our intentions will be different. We learn that intentions are sometimes flawed, but that it's up to us, we’re in the driving seat.

Our intentions and how we manifest our intentions are just as important as how the object of our intentions is received by others. We must treat others how we wish them to treat us, but the reality is we often expect others to treat us better than we treat them.

But not everyone will have good intentions. A narcissist will want the best treatment from others, but won't accept that he needs to treat others with good intentions, but would soon complain. An agenda and insecurities play a big part on people's good intentions.

We must always do and give of our best, because when we are no longer here, we will always be remembered by our intentions, whether they were good or not.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “The best of intentions”

  1. As you have rightly said before, 'actions speak louder than words.' It's all well and good having good intentions but that actually doesn't mean very much unless those intentions are acted upon.

    I can think of someone who I believe is a Narcissist, who has already proven we can't believe a word he says and that's before he's taken office.

    1. Thank you, yes they certainly do. Words are meaningless unless we choose to act on them, then we are judged by them.

      I believe in giving people a chance to prove their critics wrong. Innocent until proven guilty, although I can understand why you have your concerns already.

      As the world watches, all we can do is sit back, wait and watch. Nothing more can be done at this time.

  2. There's a cloud of low expectations and low sunlight hanging over our heads and we're forgetting all the nice little things we do for the general good; it's like we're approaching the outside of a dangerous circle.

    But we still have powerful voices that drown out asinine intentions. The CP Diary is one of those voices.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, I quite agree and feel it's important we drown out those voices so we get to lead a life where we can at least function at our own pace, calmly.

      Over time The CP Diary has become a place, a sanctuary, a place to say what we feel in a compassionate, caring, non-judgmental way and with the best of intentions at the forefront of our responses.

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