We live in a world where many people expect instant gratification. In the blink of an eye we have the information we need at our fingertips through the internet.

We don’t have to write drawn-out letters to communicate with family or friends any more. If we have access to a computer we can e-mail, quickly and efficiently. Through technology we have moved forward.

Technological advances are positive, but the flip side of that is that we continue to expect things at our fingertips. Whilst we have created a niche for ourselves through the latest technology, we think we can have the same in our relationships.

We can never have instant gratification in our relationships, instead we must work at those. Patience, empathy and understanding in relationships needs to be cultivated and nurtured.

Instead, we should look at how we can be more patient, how we can be more kind, how we can be more understanding, and who and what matters to us most in our life. It is time we change the way we think and communicate with each other.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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8 comments on “The need for patience”

  1. I tend to be a very patient person. My mother was as well. My brother has no patience what so ever.

    My father some times does, other times no. Especially when I arrive home and he wants me to do something immediately. I want to scream, " Let me get in the door first, " but I don't, I know better.

    Such is life living with an 83 year old.

    1. Randy you know to be patient and that's good. As long as we understand how to address our life better through being patient, I reckon that's okay. Others have to work it out for themselves we cannot do it for them.

      It must be extremely frustrating for you living with an 83 year old who expects you to behave in a certain way, so you fit into his life. I know you can teach him a thing or too on how to do things better and being patient is one of them.

  2. Patience is definitely something I need to work on. As you said in this day and age we expect instant gratification!

    I've had a lot of years to try to learn it, but I still have my days where it isn't the first thing I'm thinking of when dealing with the world.

    I'll have to try to find some exercises that would help with that.

    1. I think that if most of us are honest with ourselves we will probably need to work on patience.

      I also think because we have learned that in some cases we can have instant gratification we have become less patient in other areas of our life; particularly around family and friends. We seem to have less time for them. I totally agree with you.

  3. I used to get very impatient but I've gotten more laid back. It does no good to be impatient; it won't speed things up.

    I think we depend on modern technology too much. I used to enjoy writing letters and miss the joy of getting letters and cards in the mail from friends and family.

    1. Glad to hear you're taking things in a more relaxed manner.

      Being impatient is often counter-productive and in some circumstances can lead to the wrong decisions being made or the wrong things being said, particularly around family!

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