The past doesn’t stay in the past. Around mental health, If there’s something you have struggled with that you haven't dealt with, rest assured, it will continue to meet you in your present.
Before my writing days, I couldn’t mentally get past the brick walls. I blamed myself for failing to get off the starting block on my education, my disability, on my life. Of course, I see things differently now.
I couldn’t get past any of it. I’ve had to work hard at working everything out and through. It’s taken me a long time to peel back the layers, but it’s all black and white in panorama views now.
Nothing stays in the past, no one is free of their past. The only way to keep the past firmly in the past is to deal with the past, with issues from the past. Issues in your past will continue to hurt you, unless you deal with those.
When you least expect it, what you thought you'd left behind will start to resurface. So why not sit with your emotions, and give yourself the space and time to think about and work through your experiences, so that you stave off illness.
A note to ponder:
Issues don't stop being issues because we choose to ignore them. Issues don't not manifest themselves in mental health issues because we choose to ignore those. Also, issues don't stop hurting our mental health because we put those on the back burner. It is important to deal with 'issues.'
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As they like to say in the AA program, 'issues are like tissues.' It seems like I have similar issues cropping up every day, so it's pretty much never ending.
I'm once again dealing with my extreme co dependency issues, which always seems to come back to haunt. I need to finally find a way to move beyond.
I've had people 'just get over it' but it's never quite that easy. If it was, I'm sure that I would have been healthy a very long time ago. I can only hope and pray I'm able to do this.
Randy your response takes me back to my life, meeting with a brick wall and asking why there was always a brick wall there, around the wider issues that were being ignored.
My counsellor would always say, it was up to me. In other words, while others aren't taking responsibility for the 'brick wall' I needed to take responsibility, so that I could remove myself from what I was having to deal with.
As children it was up to our parents, as adults, and it isn't fair, it's up to us. I hope you can get the help you need Randy.
Everyone deals with things in their own way, being told what to do, or how to do things doesn't matter if you can't bring yourself to doing it.
Step by step, little by little, things get easier doing things in your own way and your own time.
Yes we all deal with things in our own way and that includes past issues. As long as we're not infringing or hurting anyone else, it shouldn't matter. But whatever happens, it is important not to mentally or emotionally hurt ourselves.
That said, experiences or issues that are left that we never had acceptance or closure on, can hurt us and change our DNA, if we actively choose to ignore them.
I have seen that happen twice.
I am so happy that my past sticks to me like glue. It still attempts to explain the world around me, although vague, extremely hard to understand.
But I do believe my past is trying to tell me how to be at peace with myself, in a hurried sense.
Thanks Tim... my advice would be to use your gut, your gut will help explain.
I am glad for my past also. I never thought I would say that, but it has helped me grow, mature and understand and that has helped me change.
Without our past, or without learning from our past, it will make our present and future difficult.
The past teaches us, offers explanations and allows us to change our future. Without the past to guide, we will end up working on 'blind faith' and that's not helpful.
If anything, without building on our past, in the longer term, it can work against us. That part is clear to see in today's society.