From an early age I have always lived with my own truth. It was also important others told me the truth. I would rather have heard the truth and it feel uncomfortable than have to work through the consequences of being told a lie.

Facing the truth

No matter how hard it was for me to face the truth, it was right that I came to know about my disability. Where we may try to ignore, hide or run from our truth, the truth will always prevail in the end.

Wanting to do and be better

Facing my truth, empowered me to want to do and be better. The truth meant I could be myself and live with myself. It meant I didn’t have to cover my tracks, or watch my back. Through my writing, my truth speaks volumes. No matter how many others may deny your truth, they know it is still your truth.

The truth can be uncomfortable, we may not always want to face it, but without us telling the truth, our lives will always be based on lies. No matter how many times we may try to cover up the truth, we’re notching up and fabricating yet more lies.

Without truth there is no emotional and spiritual growth

Without telling the truth there is no integrity, or emotional and spiritual growth. Being truthful about your life, about yourself says a lot about you.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “The thing about truth”

  1. You can't handle the truth, was pretty much the motto of my childhood so it was no wonder that I ended up so lost and confused.

    I watched the movie "Peanut Butter Falcon" you suggested last night and realized that my mother may have had Downs syndrome, or at least a mild form of mental retardation.

    It also served to remind me of the subliminal messages my parents reinforced, of making me feel like I couldn't do anything for myself. It was just downright ridiculous and abusive seeing as I was capable of doing so much, but will now never have the chance.

    The truth for both of us has been that we could have accomplished so much more in our lives, if only someone had bothered to tell us the truth about our issues.

    My parents forced me to act like nothing was ever wrong, when it was so obvious that there were a million things wrong. Most parents will do whatever they have to do, to make sure that their kids have a great life, but sadly there are some who never do.

    I was thinking about it this morning and the truth is that there is still so much I can accomplish, as long as I continue to believe that I can. I just want the chance to be happy for once in my life without the past making me feel so guilty.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, away from the pandemic, there will be things you can accomplish and with a few lifestyle changes I think you can.

      The truth is that you owe it to yourself to make your life the way you want it to go. Where you say 'there is still so much I can accomplish' - yes you can.

      Where we have belief and we put our minds to it, as long as what we're trying to achieve is within our reach, there is no reason why we can't.

  2. There seems to be many benefits to lying and yet we must tell the truth. A lie is never harmless.

    I particularly like the saying that if we tell the truth that becomes part of our past, but telling a lie becomes a part of our future.

    The truth attracts the truth.

    1. Thank you. A white lie is acceptable if it serves to protect, for example you tell someone their hair is nice when they ask because you don't want to hurt their feelings.

      But lies never pay and I agree they become part of a person's future. Have you also noticed that when you lie that lie comes back to bite.

      If you believe in karma as I do, karma will always serve those who wittingly choose to lie.

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