It doesn’t matter that we all deal with different things, the problem is we will always have something to deal with. Some of us will find those things easy, some of us will find those things difficult.

Some of us will want help and will be open to suggestions, whilst others will not be open to any suggestions at all. They would rather go it alone. For anyone with issues it can be hard to accept help, because to accept help is to accept that he or she has a problem and society teaches us we mustn't talk about our problems.

Ever since I was a little girl I've always wanted to talk. For me it was more about trying to clear my issues, more than the issue itself, but working through things saved me from living with too much anxiety and stress.

We must want to help ourselves. I also believe that for some of us, although we're not comfortable with what we have to deal with, to some extent we would rather stay where we are, because to admit we have issues, means having to take control and that part we're less comfortable with.

The first time is always the most difficult, but rewarding once you've done it. Talking about the things that bother us allows us to change our life for the better and helps us face responsibility.

It also means we will stay living in the past, whilst we continue to blame everyone else instead. We must put our trust in those who try to help us and accept that we perhaps we need help.

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Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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8 comments on “Time for us to accept help”

  1. I totally agree with the part about having to want to help ourselves first. Everything you have said here is very true and very wise. Great post.

  2. I thought of someone in particular when I read this and I think you'll know who I'm talking about. He has problems, but is the type not to believe he does and therefore wouldn't even consider seeking help. His antics bother most people I know that know him.

    I believe in seeking help for our problems if we can't figure it out on our own and make changes.

    I agree with you on all accounts here also. We do need to recognize we have a problem and accept help that is out there, even from friends and family.

    1. Ditto. Pleased we agree Lisa. It's a shame that most of us will continue to live with our problems rather than talk to someone about them.

  3. Once again this problem about getting help with problems is my problem. You have a very wise perspective of how people work.

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