Our ability to see beyond hurt encourages emotional growth. When we understand other people’s actions that causes us to feel and understand, it allows us to let go.

We may never go on to experience life in its entirety, if we don't let go of resentment. It’s the act of letting go that allows us to make space for bigger and better things. It is easy to hold on to resentment, when others who have hurt us don’t express remorse, or accept what they’ve done.

That is something for them to change. Although the relationship can never change unless they change, when we carry the burden, we’re causing ourselves more pain. When we stop inflicting hurt on ourselves, we start to encourage a shift in something much bigger than ourselves.

When we understand the hurt, we can rationale and let go. It's a statement that encourages understanding, resulting in emotional growth.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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