"As a child, I didn’t know what trust or truth was, but I don’t think you do when you're small. I didn’t stop to question trust or truth, but I do remember thinking they must have been in place. Looking back there was no trust or truth.

But I would rather have been told something I didn’t want to hear, than ignore the truth on what I needed to hear. It is important children grow up with trust and truth. If they have it in their childhood and the relationship is handled correctly, they should continue to live with trust and truth in their adult lives. Trust and truth are needed for mental and emotional stability.

It is important to trust and to hear the truth. We should be able to trust others to tell us the truth; trust and truth should start with family. It is important to tell the truth no matter how difficult the truth is.

Without truth there is no trust and without trust, there can be no truth."

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Trust and Truth”

  1. It sounds like we grew up in the same kind of environment with the same kind of parents, which I'm sure is why we connected so well in the beginning.

    My parents forced us to trust them. They isolated us from other people and made us afraid of telling the truth. We were usually living under the dark cloud of being taken away from our family, which would have been enough to make anyone neurotic.

    Only recently have I been able to admit to myself what the truth of my life was and to accept that I have been punishing myself for so long because of mistakes that I made.

    The truth is that I'm only human and that the biggest mistake was made by my parents who forced us to live their lies.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes and yes, I can resonate with your experiences. Although no one goes to school to parent, the mistakes of our parents are the mistakes we make, unless we are able to correct them.

      Yes, it wasn't your mistake, it was your parents' mistake. Parents will make mistakes and that is accepted. I don't think any parent gets their parenting right, one hundred per cent right, but where parents don't try or they do something wittingly, I'm not sure where you stand on forgiveness.

      As parents, it's our job to make sure our children trust and believe our truth and we are truthful. Both of those are as far as I am concerned, not open for debate.

  2. You have to trust someone, but beware of pigs dressed like ballerinas. I had to learn that the hard way by trusting disguises instead of my inner voice.

    The truth is, I didn't know the difference between reality and illusion; sometimes I still have difficulty with that.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, the reality is how you want things to look the illusion is how you think things are, but not really knowing for sure.

      Using your intuition is the divide, between the two. When you work from your intuition (your inner voice) full time, you'll know exactly who you can trust.

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