Perhaps instead of us saying should, we should say could. That would stop us putting unnecessary pressure on ourselves. When we tell ourselves we 'should' have done something, it automatically implies that we may have been able to do better, or implied we have done something wrong.
Replace should with could and see how different the sentence feels, sounds and implies. Could gives us a choice, it allows us to become more calm and less stressed. It helps us to make more objective choices as to whether the choice is right for us, which then takes the pressure off us.
Easier said than done, but that's a good one. I told you i would be here. Love you, take care of you.
Colleen, yes you're right... it is easier said than done, but isn't that true of most things in life?
I totally agree with you. I hear myself saying should a lot and it doesn't get me anywhere. I'll start trying to say could instead.
Let me know how you get on Lisa. Hope you achieve it.