When we take the time to look into another person’s soul and truly understand them, it becomes clearer why they make certain choices. However, forgiveness isn’t always guaranteed – it depends on the nature of the act.
What happens to us is rarely personal; it is often a reflection of where the other person is. But when we can recognise the reasons behind someone’s actions, it can help ease our own feelings and bring us a step closer to acceptance.
We are responsible for the energy and actions we put into the world. It is essential to acknowledge our deeds and make amends – not just for ourselves, but for those we have wronged.
I was neglected as a child and had very little parental input. I put this down to the lack of any understanding by my parents of how to parent, but you can't help think that convenience played a part too.
It was just easier that way and in that respect conscious decisions were made, like they were in your parenting. Like you I have to reconcile this.
Some days I am grateful for the neglect, as it meant my parents didn't screw me up to the same extent they did my siblings; but other days I find it incredulous that I was left to my own devices and left to make life changing decisions by myself.
Like many of their generation, mine were a great advert for how not to parent.
Thanks. A sad tale you tell. Unless you ask your mum you will never know, and unless you have a parent that is open enough to discuss their shortcomings, it's not something that will happen, not easily anyway.
I see your dilemma. I didn't get very far talking to my own parents. We can however, form opinions of our parents, by coming to understand how they think and function.
I have spent my whole life working it out.