Trust is the backbone to any relationship, in all circumstances, but is especially important in families. It is what keeps families together.
Growing up I never thought about trust. Instead I grew up with assumptions. I assumed those around me had my back. Children need to know they can trust their family – that those close to them will do the right things.
They believe what they're told because it's what children do. They shouldn't have to read between the lines, or live with concerns, and worries – having to piece their own life together. Children should have honesty and trust.
It has taken me 56 years to learn about me, about what I later learned was a disability to bring my disability together.
Trust is surely the backbone of all our relationships and a parent's trust must be the most important of all.
As a child, we are programmed to trust those who look after us and this trust is even more important when dealing with anyone who is disadvantaged or vulnerable.
Although I can't know what it was like for you, for you to find out how those around you let you down, really is hard to comprehend.
Thank you. A parent's trust is sacrosanct and must never be broken.
Before any child goes out into the world, they will rely on their parents the most, therefore that trust must always be in place.
As parents shape us, we continue to put our trust in them. There are no words to explain how I feel. I haven't come to terms with what's happened to me,
As you say it's difficult to comprehend. Being a parent myself, I find it even more incomprehensible that any parent would behave in this way.
We didn't grow up with a lot of trust in our family. It became apparent that my parents were lying most of the time, pretty much about everything.
I don't think it would have been so bad if it hadn't been so obvious, since they stopped trying to pretend. I'm sure there wasn't a promise they made, that they didn't break. There wasn't any reason for me to trust them.
They weren't dealing with their own mental health issues, so it's no wonder they didn't know how to help me deal with mine. They spent most of their time trying to convince us that everything was okay, when it wasn't.
It's no wonder I have serious trust issues.
Although being parented badly isn't easy as a child, parents teach us 'how not to do things' and I think that can be enormously helpful.
I think your parents will know that now. They will know about your trust issues Randy. Too late in the day for you to correct it with your parents, but we can take great lessons from our parents.
I believe we can do things better with work on ourselves, changing things for our own children for us to work on trust.