We shouldn't judge, instead we should be here to act and support. Living with a disability, over the years, I have been judged and have experienced first hand how being judged can lead to assumptions that are false.

It is important to remember that we're all different and unless you walk in another person's shoes, no one can really know what we go through, how we feel. As a society, we make judgments based on how people look, but the more we judge others, the more we're in fact judging ourselves.

We judge around stereotypes associated with appearance. Deeply ingrained in our culture, we don't always stop to think. Around disability it’s much harder because we already look and present differently, with no thought to what we may deal with. But we shouldn't judge because words can hurt.

When we acknowledge someone's suffering, we stop ourselves from judging. Judging is rectifiable, because it is down to our perceptions and perceptions can always be changed. Judging is about the person judging.

But it is important that if you have to judge, you look at the whole picture so that you are able to make more accurate judgments. Having been written off from an early age, and for those who throughout my life have judged me, given my achievements, they couldn't have been more wrong about me.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Why We Shouldn't Judge Others”

  1. For those who judge others, it isn't really about us, but them. For some reason, people just love to judge, but no one is perfect and on the basis of what goes round etc, I leave it to others.

    As you say it shouldn't be for anyone to judge, just to support where the support is needed.

    1. Thank you. Yes, more support and less judgment. In a changed world, we need to support more, and judge less.

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